Dating is always stressful. And it doesn’t get easier as you get older. But once we meet that guy who proves not all guys are losers, we want to hang on to them. Sometimes, we fall for them too fast and things can get out of control. When you date someone, you should take some time to get to know them.
Dating is all about figuring each other out. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. That’s dating. At some point while you’re dating, you might come across a clingy guy. Someone who’s been dating for a long time and is ready to settle down right away. Maybe he’s in a hurry to fall in love, or he could be someone who is still broken from the past. He might not even know that he’s clingy.
Being clingy isn’t always a bad thing, but things can go too far, it all depends on where you both stand in the relationship. If you both are clingy together, then maybe you both are happy that way. If not, these seven tips will help you figure out if you are dating someone who’s just too clingy.
1.Non-Stop Texting and Calling
When you first start dating someone, the feeling is new and fresh. It’s understandable that the both of you have butterflies and are happy when you hear each others voice or see a text first thing in the morning. But if he’s texting you all day and sends you 10 text messages without you ever replying, that’s a red flag. Be excited when you start dating. Just be aware of the signs along the way that could make the new relationship end badly for the both of you.
2.He Wants To Hang Out Everyday
One unattractive quality is when someone is just too available and answers to your every beck and call. It’s not sexy when someone is too available, there’s no reason he should be with you every day. There has to be some mystery to his life; as you have in yours. It’s not about playing games; it’s about leading your own life and coming together when you both have or make the time. It’s about giving one and other space.
3.Endless Questions About Your Past
The past is the past. He shouldn’t be asking you about your ex or the amount of guys you have slept with. That’s no one’s business but your own. This is a big topic that comes up more often than you think and could be a huge red flag. There are other things you both could be talking about. But sometimes it does come up. If it does and you are both open to it, have the talk and be done with it. If he doesn’t stop asking about your past, let him know that you are trying to move on and his bringing it up doesn’t help.
4.He’s Insecure
Does he ever show insecurity when you spend time with another man? Or maybe even your friends? It could be that he’s afraid you might fall in love with another man. It could be that he just has low self-esteem.
You should be able to go out with your friends and meet sexy, good looking guys and have a flirty conversation with them when he isn’t around. He needs to realize that just because you’re talking to a guy doesn’t mean you want to have sex with him or build a relationship. Remember, you’re dating, not exclusive.
5.He Lives For Attention
If he’s the guy that always wants (needs) attention, maybe even by picking a fight with you just to get that attention, guess what: You have a clinger on your hands. He needs to understand that you both have individual lives. He doesn’t own you or have the right to tell you how to live. You have the right to live out your own dreams and goals without him always getting upset. There’s nothing wrong with him wanting to hangout, but there is something wrong when he wants to hangout all day, every day, and starts to pick a fight with you just because you choose not to see him.
6.He Shares Everything on Social Media
If you just started dating the guy a few weeks or months ago, every post on his social media accounts shouldn’t always be about you both. It’s great that he’s happy he met someone. But also, you’re just dating. You’re not having kids or about to get married or are planning on spending the rest of your lives together. This is still the dating stage, not the “I found the one” stage. Be careful on this. Don’t become just another post for this guy. Keep your dating off any social media channels. A post here and there is fine, just have boundaries.
7.He Wants To Move The Relationship Too Fast
While you both are dating there’s no need for him to talk about a life together. The point of dating is to get to know each other and see if you are a fit. It could be something you know right away, it could be something that takes a few months.
If you find him planning a life together before you have even said I love you, this is a sign. You need to ask him to slow things down and enjoy what you both have. It’s not about running away. It’s about finding with makes you both happy. He needs to respect that.
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Angel M. Rodriguez is a freelance writer in Los Angeles, CA. He writes horror, comedy and online articles. He’s a horror movie fanatic. Wes Craven and Stephen King are his inspiration. Angel has written for iHorror, Curve Magazine, Elite Daily, Thought Catalog, The Bold Italic and other online blogs.
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