Catching Up With Jake Graf

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How has trans representation changed?
I think that in the last 5 or so years there has been a massive positive shift in trans representation:  We’re finally seeing trans men in the media, which is absolutely vital for the next generation of young trans guys who will grow up with great role models, knowing that they are not alone, something I never had. Also, and after much resistance, the Press seemed to be starting to move away from vilifying or ridiculing trans folk, which in turn positively influenced public perceptions of us. Programmes like ‘Transparent’ and films like ‘The Danish Girl’ have also helped hugely towards understanding the trans experience, and some wonderful trans women like Laverne Cox, Alexandra Billings and Zackary Drucker and guys like Aydian Dowling and Benjamin Melzer have really helped give trans folk a much needed voice too.
 
Headspace has had a lot of interest too. (We’ve read the comments). Why do you think Headspace has appealed to a lot of people?
 
I never expected Headspace to have quite the impact that it did! When it went viral and we were at a million views in 24 hours, we were all blown away, and really moved by the amazingly supportive response from within the trans community. That it was picked up by Huffington Post, Upworthy and Buzzfeed really helped, and it really demonstrated a very encouraging show of support from the more mainstream media outlets.
I think the reason it appealed to so many was that it was very real: all of us experience the challenges in Headspace at some point. I think all trans folk struggle with their voices being misgendered, with intimate health checks, and often with simply being abused walking down the street. The all trans cast really laid themselves bare and spoke from the heart, and it just really resonated with people in a way that few films had before. It’s now used as an educational tool in schools, universities, offices and prisons worldwide, and it’s pretty humbling to know the difference it has made to a lot of people.
 
Who are some LGBTQ and trans figures that inspire you?
 
I think that Laverne Cox is amazing for being such a trailblazer and putting herself out in the public eye at a time when trans acceptance wasn’t nearly so evolved, and standing firm. I also have huge respect for Sir Ian Mckellen, who does so much for the LGBT community, speaking in schools, personally donating thousands, and readily supporting LGBT campaigns worldwide, all without fuss or fanfare.
The trans person I most admire however is my amazing fiancée Hannah: I have never met anyone who conducts themselves with such grace under fire, who shows such kindness to strangers, or who is such a positive role model for young trans folk everywhere. She really is incredible, and I know that in the UK she has inspired a whole new generation of trans women to come out and be proud of who they are.
What struggles do you come up against?
The usual struggles that any writer or creative faces: sporadic work, never being quite sure where the next pay check is coming from, and trying to keep up with my Army employed fiancée! I’m really  lucky in that I am one of the only trans guys in the UK making films at this level, and so I’ve have had lots of support from the big filmmaking bodies, which hopefully will help me secure the funding to get my feature film made.

Something which is quite challenging at the moment is the very recent backlash against trans folk in the mainstream Press, and some very dangerous and sensationalist reporting designed to pit the public against us. It’s worrying for trans folk in everyday life, but much more so for the trans children who have been brave enough to be themselves, and who are increasingly terrified to go to school, walk down the street, or even just leave the house. With the attempted suicide rate amongst trans kids at 48%, this is a battle that just seems to run on and on.

So, let’s end on a positive note, have you set a wedding date yet?
 
Hannah really wants a Summer wedding, so that’s what we’re aiming for. We really want kids, so we need to think about surrogacy and so on, and may have to hem in the wedding costs, but if sacrificing a little extravagance allows us to be parents more quickly, then we’re happy to do that. We just feel incredibly lucky to have found each other at all. I think we’d both given up hope on finding real love, but it just goes to show that there’s someone out there for everyone.

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